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In Response To: Re: Rape Fantasy?Message Thread:
Date: Mon Dec 23 17:35:24 2002
From: Wynne
Subject: Re: Re: Rape Fantasy?Good essay!
I know this has been said before, but many -- not all -- women fantasize
about being raped (among other things, of course). I am one of them.
Before condemning my feelings/beliefs/opinions/etc., realize that
I am speaking from a personal viewpoint, and that someone (I can't
remember who) said "Generalizations are generally wrong"
(something to remember in life)... so, I might be wrong. I never
said I was right, nor do I pretend to be right.
It is important to understand that everyone has their own sexual preferences,
favourites and never-gonna-happens. Even within a group with similar
sexual tastes, there are variations. This is the uniqueness of animals
(yes, humans are animals... why do you think we're so damn horny?!).
So, although someone, for example, might like getting fucked vaginally,
another person might abhor the idea and instead prefer anal intercourse.
It all comes down to the individual's preferences.
So, if someone prefers the idea of planned, controlled, consentual
rape, who are we to tell her no? It's her choice, her body and her
fantasy. I agree that what often comes to mind when the word "rape"
is mentioned is the brutal attacker holding a weapon to his victim's
head and forcing her to submit to degrading sexual acts is NOT something
arousing (again, in general...there are always exceptions to the rule).
But that is where things become difficult.
Some people lump "fantasy rape" and rape in the same pile.
this cannot and should not be done: they are two different things
and although they may have a similar/common base (woman is forced
to submit) they also have very different outcomes (fantasy rape:
woman is satisfied and does not run the risk of being permanently
damaged emotionally since it was consensual; actual rape: woman was
forced to submit and taken against her will and often suffers longtime
emotional damage).
For myself, I am a control freak in most aspects of my life which
is why I enjoy being given (or creating) the chance to give myself
a break and become submissive in bed. Actually, I am less of a sub
than a bottom (I will try to fight my way out of it and thereby cause
myself more *grief* and *pain*)... but let's not go into that... :p
In any case, let's all voice our opinions, but please, don't be judgemental...
remember: you determine what your fantasies are; Don't tell someone
else what theirs are.
Thanx.
Wynne